What may seem like an offensive question when posed in a non-hostile way is a beautiful question: Who do each of us think we're talking to? We don't talk to abstract hierarchies, we talk to real people. You don't talk to the "boss" and he doesn't talk to the "employee" either. It's more than that. Behind the position there is a person with their uniqueness. It is impossible to be “just” a boss, owner or employee. Relationships do have a degree of formality the more complex they are in the social network.
For example, former Prime Minister of Canada, Pierre Trudeau (father of the current one), drew attention years ago for wearing sneakers with a suit and tie... Anyone who sees the minister like that thinks he expresses a sense of a more accessible presence, informal, which innovates his presence in the position.
Charismatic people find it very easy to feel themselves in formal positions, perceiving evidence of naturalness. On the contrary, the use of formality of position or position in the family happens when the subject does not feel recognized in the position of authority: “I'm your father (boss, boss, president, husband): see how you talk to me!”. At the other end, the subordinate appears in the role of "doing everything" for the subordinate, without respecting himself.
What needs to be sought is the formation of a relationship marked by authenticity between them.
We don't talk to hierarchies, we talk to people
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